You are the love you’ve been waiting for

There comes a moment in almost every mother’s healing when she realizes:
No one is coming to love you exactly the way you wish they would.
It hits like heartbreak. Like a wave. Like loss.
You think of all the ways you gave—hoping it would come back to you. You remember the moments you stayed silent, the needs you buried, the ache for someone to finally see you.
But instead of that ache breaking you, let it wake you.
Let it be the beginning of your becoming.
THE LOVE YOU ALWAYS LONGED FOR
Maybe you longed for a gentle mother. A present father. A partner who noticed your exhaustion. A friend who never left.
Maybe you thought if you just loved enough, they’d eventually love you back the way you needed.
But here’s the sacred truth:
The love you crave isn’t someone else’s job. It’s yours.
You are the one who carries your stories. You are the one who wakes up with the ache and still shows up. You are the one who knows what hasn’t been named.
Which means: You are the one most qualified to love yourself well.
WHY IT HURTS SO MUCH
We weren’t taught to love ourselves. We were taught to earn love. To behave. To give. To suppress. To perform.
And then we wonder why no one sees us.
We look to friends, partners, even our kids—hoping they’ll notice. But when they don’t, it’s not proof that we’re unlovable. It’s proof that we’re still waiting for someone else to do the job God entrusted to us.
You were never meant to outsource your wholeness.

LOVING YOURSELF IS A HOLY ACT
This isn’t pride. This isn’t “I don’t need anyone.” This is restoration.
This is reparenting. This is becoming the mother you never had. This is being the friend you always needed.
When you begin to:
- Validate your feelings
- Speak gently to yourself
- Give yourself what no one else did
…you stop resenting, begging, and shrinking. You start living with emotional safety. You start mothering from a healed place.
That’s the Miracle Mom Method in motion.
WHEN YOU LOVE YOURSELF, YOU STOP SETTLING
This kind of self-love doesn’t make you independent. It makes you wise.
You stop choosing people who harm you. You stop chasing people who won’t stay. You stop proving your worth.
You begin attracting what mirrors your healing.
Because when you become emotionally safe for yourself—you teach others how to love you in that same way.
START HERE: 5 SACRED ACTS OF SELF-LOVE
- Validate Without Shame “Of course I feel this way.” Say it. Believe it.
- Meet One Need Today Don’t wait for someone else to ask.
- Speak Like a Loving Parent Would you say that to your child?
- Create Emotional Safety Your home doesn’t need perfection. It needs presence.
- Pray as a Daughter, Not a Beggar You are already chosen. Talk to God like you believe it.
FOR THE MAMA WHO’S BEEN WAITING
If you’ve spent your life waiting to be loved well, please hear me:
You didn’t fail. You were surviving.
But now? You get to do it differently.
You get to choose yourself—not from ego, but from legacy. You get to raise children who watch a woman who doesn’t beg to be chosen…because she already chose herself.
This is how the story changes.

FINAL TRUTH:
No one will love you exactly the way you want—because that’s your job.
And when you step into that sacred responsibility with gentleness and grace, you stop chasing love and start becoming it.
Your motherhood becomes a healing place. Your heart becomes safe ground. Your life becomes a miracle.
You are the love you’ve been waiting for.
❤️. Thank you for reminders of things I need to re focus and do better.